I'm sure that you have heard about Autism Speaks, The Autism Society and about a million other groups and organizations that offer support. When Sam was first diagnosed, I remember the doctor saying I should join one of these groups...to find support. I did join one. I don't think I ever went to a meeting. We have never been to a sensory Saturday movie or Santa's "special" workshop. But I did find support. I found it in the waiting rooms of speech clinics, at my local pool and even in Kroger's. I'm not sure I believe that 1 in 88 is an accurate reflection of autism, but I do know there are a lot of us out there. Jumping, flapping, melting down, and stimming throughout communities across the country. The wiser and more experienced parents reach back to pull the fledgelings along. The fledgelings gain strength and build determination until they are ready to reach back for someone themselves.
I have been very fortunate to meet many amazing and knowledgeable people because of Sam and his autism. That is a good thing. It is a very good thing about my child having autism. I know it sounds strange to say there is anything good about my child having autism, but there is.
Today, I was in Kroger's and saw one of many families I know because of autism. David's son is older than mine. He and his wife are really wonderful people. If for no other reason than the fact that they are still married. Something that I find quite amazing. Their story is longer than just a son with autism, which I won't get into. I am so impressed with their dedication to their children and their equitable division of responsibility. If you asked me to come up with 3 words to describe what I see each time I run into them in any combination, I would say balance, love and acceptance. I think I have learned more from families like theirs than I ever could have from sitting in a formal support meeting.
David, thank you for talking to me tonight about adult services. It was really nice to hear your perspective on that next step.
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